Kip and Ivy have reached the age of sibling rage, rivalry, and aggression. Man can they be mean to each other! Ivy especially, girlfriend has some major sass and will not hesitate to knock down Kip's tower or scream in a fit if she is jealous or angry about something. And that happens. A lot!
Both of them have mastered the art of getting under each other's skin. It's a sibling rite of passage that needs no instruction, it's evidently hard wired. Over a month ago I was breaking up another fight and I told them I was going to start kindness jars and if I saw kind behavior I would award them a pom pom or token and if they filled their jar then we would go do something special. They perked-up to that idea.
My hope is, if us adults witness kindness by one, other, or both of them, we will praise the heck out of it and make a big deal of adding a token to their respective jar. So far we have seen some small measured progress. The fights are still outweighing the kindness but I do want to say I'm seeing genuine encouragement, sweetness, helpfulness, and support towards each other instead of chronic fighting. More so from Kip than from Ivy at this point but Sis will get there.
Mandy found the little magnetic jars on Amazon and they came two in a pack with cute tokens. They drop in the jars like Plinko!
We also had to implement a "whose turn is it" chart because they were fighting over who got to pick a show over and over and over. Now we have a chart and they cross off their letter when they pick a show and can easily see who goes next to pick. That has effectively solved that problem. Win!
Just some simple ideas with some noted success.
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